Showing posts with label good manager. Show all posts
Showing posts with label good manager. Show all posts

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Day 6 – Observations on inclusiveness

I had two experiences over a trip to Delhi, coincidently both around inclusiveness.

Over coffee at the airport, my colleague narrated an incident where he had invited a group of HIV-affected* children to perform while planning a company-wide employee family event. He later decided not to have them at the event, due to much discussion over the ‘risk’ this would expose employees and their families to. Instead, he later organized a visit to their institution with a few interested employees.

We stayed at Lemon Tree hotel in Delhi. At breakfast the next morning, I heard a loud shuffling as a waiter walked past me. I looked up to this scene. A very pleasant and patient waiter, was transferring a tray of plates to the shuffling waiter, whom I recognized as being affected by Down’s syndrome. The waiter with Down’s syndrome tried to pick up the stack of plates, but was not able to. He then held his hands out, and his colleague lifted the stack of plates and put them into his arms, and he took them into the kitchen.**

How organizations, or people in every situations handle inclusiveness is purely based on attitude. In the first instance, it is an attitude of self-protection, closed and ‘safe’ in the way things are. In the second, it is an attitude of openness, where interpersonal skills and social learning define the way things are.

Many organizations mention activities where they visit NGOs and other institutions in inclusiveness reports. This is not inclusiveness, when you leave your safe space to play with ‘them’ in a limited-risk and time-bound experience. Inclusiveness is when you open your environment to people with special abilities, or from differing backgrounds, and importantly, change the environment for them to make it better for everyone.
 

*HIV-affected – this term doesn’t always mean HIV-infected; it also covers those who are related to someone who is infected, and the stigma carries on into their lives. HIV does not transfer over casual contact, shaking hands or hugging.  

**Note on Down’s syndrome – Lemon Tree hotels refers to people with Down’s syndrome as ‘happy people’ because of their unshakeable cheerfulness. Weak muscle tone and loose ligaments are often a problem for them, so picking up the tray was difficult for the waiter. His colleague understood this and put the tray into his hands. Physical motor coordination also works differently, hence the shuffling gait. The restaurant manager I spoke to says 15% of their employees are differently-abled, and all their employees know sign language.

Monday, September 7, 2015

What would happen if you told your boss you couldn’t travel because it was your kid’s birthday?

Well if you are a man, you wouldn’t because this would seem frivolous. If you are a woman you wouldn’t, because it would make you seem like you obviously preferred to stay home and care for kids rather than work.

Either way, your child loses out. Growing up, I was always made to feel special on my birthday. My dad, who was away at sea, would send me the prettiest card full of glitter. My mom, who ran her own pre-school and managed four kids, would still find time to stitch me a new frock, and my siblings were tasked with decorating my place at the dining table for breakfast.

Making children feel special takes time, planning and yes, also needs to be recognized by your boss as something worth pushing back for. And I think needs to be done by moms and dads, because nothing makes a kid happier than when his parents connive to make him feel special.

This is a choice that managers can make, one that is guaranteed to foster immense loyalty by the very simple decision on how they react to such an honest reason for not traveling. In one story narrated to a child at home, a boss is someone who keeps his parents away on their birthday. In the second version, a boss is someone spoken of with affection and gratitude.

Which manager are you?