#100days200words: Day 3 - Why it’s important to mindfully address stereotypes

When I strolled out in blue Spiderman pyjamas, my young nephew was flummoxed.

That’s a boy’s pant! You can’t wear it!

But I like Spiderman.

If there was a Spidergirl, you can wear it. You’re a girl.

Hm.. is it ok if girls watch Spiderman on TV?

Yes. TV’s fine. But that’s a boy’s pant. Spiderman is a boy.

Hm. So what if I like you? Can I have a photo of you on my T shirt?

Yes.

So then, why not Spiderman on my pyjamas?

There’s girl’s clothes and boy’s clothes – Spiderman is for boys.

What about flowers? Is that a boy or a girl thing?

Girls.

Those shorts belong to your uncle. ( husband’s flowery Goa shorts)

Thoughtful.

Anyone can wear anything they like, sweetie. (Not convinced, but thinking about it)

I often wonder if I’m being radical by addressing a stereotype whenever I come across it. Thinking about it though, the societal order is so strong, it’s a given that gender-based role enforcement will happen. In this case, there’s no bias in his home, but obviously there are many possible influences in a child’s life. My conclusion is that it’s important to address a stereotype when you recognize it, because if an alternative is not presented, it can never exist. Choices are needed to make good decisions, such as buying the right phone. Choices must also be needed to decide what principles you want to buy into.